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Questions about Party Etiquette?   

Dr. Bonnie has the answers!   Everyone always wants to know what the 'right thing to do' is concerning party etiquette and everybody wants to  steer clear from party fouls!  Below are some of your questions answered by one of the most experienced party planners on the globe:

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU ALLOW FOR AN RSVP FOR AN INFORMAL PARTY?

Ahhhh, the last minute switcheroo - I've changed my mind and now I want to 
go!  The typical time range for an RSVP is 2 weeks for an informal party.  
A guest for an informal party should RSVP within 72 hours prior to the party 
so the host can prepare for the number of guests s/he will have.  If the 
event is catered, caterers typically require a 48 or even a 24 finalized 
head count, so a guest or numerous guests RSVP'ing within 24 hours or 
less to a party can mean disaster for the host.  

IS AN EVITE CONSIDERED LAZY OR IS IT JUST A SIGN OF THE TIMES?

It's a sign of the times, actually.  It's green, simple, and convenient.  It 
shouldn't be looked down upon for an informal party.  However, if you receive 
a wedding invitation via Evite - that's horrendous unless these two are 
hitchhiking it to Vegas because she is knocked up.  


IF YOU ARE INVITED TO AN INFORMAL DINNER PARTY, SHOULD 
YOU BYOB IF THE HOST DOESN'T MENTION IT?

This one is tricky, young grasshopper, as it depends on how 'informal' this 
party is.  Here's my rule of thumb:  if you received an invitation through any 
means and it did not mention anything about BYOB, then just bring the host a 
token gift (i.e. marble rye (LOL), bottle of wine, chocolates, flowers, etc.).   If you 
were invited via casual conversation or through a phone call - BYOB as this is 
not a 'planned' event and you will just deplete another guests' beverage.  
This is rude!

WHAT IF THE INVITE ONLY HAS MY NAME ON IT -  
CAN I BRING MY FIVE AND SIX YEAR OLD BUNDLES OF JOY?

That would be a negative, ghostrider.  Call a babysitter!